BEING by ALLAGI - Setting your limits with kindness - saying and hearing no

Avoir suivi le module d’introduction et/ou connaître les bases du processus de la Communication Non Violente®.

Lectures recommandées si vous ne connaissez pas les bases du processus et que vous souhaitez vous inscrire à cette formation:

• "Les mots sont des fenêtres (ou bien ce sont des murs)" – Marshall B. Rosenberg
• "Et si on s’écoutait?" – Sophie Grosjean
• "Cessez d’être gentils, soyez vrais!" – Thomas d’Ansembourg

At the end of this training, you will have the tools you need to use in your daily life to:

• Understand the harmful impacts of saying "yes" when you want to say "no" in various contexts, by identifying the reasons for our reluctance to express or accept refusal. Identify the disempowering language that obscures our ability to choose.
• Recognize the difference between superficial kindness and authenticity, and identify how love experienced as conditional influences our ability to set healthy boundaries and respect our own needs.
• Evaluate our emotional and physical state in response to requests, to recognize when we are truly ready to give of our energy and when it is healthier to refuse.
• Learn to express respectful and clear refusal using the principles of NVC, communicating our needs while considering those of others, and avoiding feelings of guilt or shame.
• Develop active and empathetic listening skills to better understand and accept refusal without perceiving it as personal rejection, and find new strategies that satisfy everyone.
• Explore how to integrate the protective use of force into our communication to recognize refusal as an act of personal and collective protection, not aggression.
• Reinforce learning through role-playing and practical exercises to apply learned techniques in real or fictional situations, promoting better integration.

That extra project we took on at work despite our current workload, that party we went to when we were longing for a moment of rest, or that friend's move we helped despite being tired...

These seemingly trivial situations are often the straw that breaks the camel's back. Every "yes" given without first considering our availability gradually wears us down, until we find ourselves drained and exhausted. Who, however, is responsible for this very thing, if not ourselves?

Saying "no" and hearing it back is often perceived as a negative act, even a form of rejection or hostility. This cultural perception has created a real emotional dilemma where many of us hesitate to say no, for fear of disappointing, hurting, or losing the love and affection of others. This difficulty setting clear boundaries leads to exhaustion, resentment, and a loss of authenticity in our relationships, where we tend to say "nice" or even automatic yeses! Asking yourself how to express a refusal while still nurturing the relationship then becomes essential.

The training "I set my boundaries with kindness, it's good for me (and sometimes for others) - No longer being afraid to say and hear no" addresses this issue in depth. It aims to transform the way we perceive and use the word "no," recognizing it as a tool to preserve our personal integrity and foster honest, balanced, and respectful relationships, and to regain our freedom of choice while avoiding guilt and fear.

It is particularly aimed at those who struggle to refuse requests for fear of conflict or relationship loss. By learning to say "no" respectfully, expressing our needs, and listening to it without perceiving it as rejection, this training helps us overcome the obstacles that prevent us from setting our boundaries.

It highlights the importance of developing a culture where "no" is as valuable as "yes," not only for our personal well-being, but also to respect and care for life in general, thus fostering relational ecology.

• Apports théoriques
• Exercices pratiques
• Mises en situation
• Jeux de rôle
• Partage d'expériences
• Temps d'échange
• Syllabus de cours
• Présentation PowerPoint
• Vidéos illustratives
• Sélection de livres de référence

Les exercices permettent aux participants d'évaluer leur maîtrise au fur et à mesure.
Un questionnaire d’évaluation est proposé en fin de formation à titre indicatif.

Une attestation de présence sera remise en fin de session

Il sera également possible de faire l’acquisition de littérature et matériel didactique en rapport avec la CNV®. Possibilité de séances de coaching ou de suivi personnalisé après la formation.